Focus on the relationship, not a specific person
You might have someone in mind, a crush, a coworker, who you are attracted to and think they might be the one. Or maybe it’s an ex that got away…
Something that is very important to understand is that focusing your manifestation on a single person is dangerous. How do you know that this person is the best person for you? It is much much much better to focus on manifesting the relationship you want. If you do this and “that” person is right for you and matches your vibration, nothing in the world (even if they’re in another relationship) can keep you apart. This is often the right approach for anyone trying to manifest their ex or a specific person.
I have seen (and experienced) too many times people realizing when they got “that” person, that what they really wanted was a beautiful relationship and that person actually doesn’t fit.
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Ok…But Give Me Results! How Do I Manifest The Perfect Relationship?!
We only want something because of the way we think that it (or they) will make us feel. We can only attract something if we believe in its existence. We can only believe in something that we can feel. So we need to use our power of imagination to imagine and feel this relationship.
- What would it feel like to walk into your home or go on your dream vacation with this person?
- What will it feel like to wake up next to them, to eat dinner with them?
- How will it feel to be hugged by them, to make love with them?
But what if that makes me feel worse?
Sometimes, we have too much resistance around the ideal relationship and this kind of direct visualization is too much. The more focused we become, the more our disbelief arises. We should not fight this.
Instead, we need focus on other good things that we have no resistance to, and allow that to raise our vibration. Our vibration will get so high at a certain point that resistance and disbelief in other areas will kind of melt away. To be clear, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO FOCUS ON WHAT YOU WANT TO GET WHAT YOU WANT. You must only have a strong, alive, joyous vibration. If you do that, then everything will begin to flow.
Please read this article on reducing resistance:
The Key To Effortless Manifestations: Reducing Resistance
For example
Let’s say that you struggle with self-confidence so while you want your dream relationship, you don’t really believe it can be had. Every time you think about this dream relationship, it actually just makes you feel worse. But you think you need to focus on it for it to come, so you keep focusing on it and feeling worse. Not helpful. Realize that you don’t need to “bring” this relationship to you. It is waiting for you. The only thing keeping it away is your resistance (in this situation, your lack of self confidence). So, instead of focusing on the relationship, focus instead on building your self confidence.
A belief is only a set of practiced thoughts. So start seeing the emotional loop of “not enough." Practice thinking positively. Learn to build emotional momentum. Do the work to change yourself and you will begin to attract people effortlessly.
You must always remember that the outside is a reflection of the inside. The work you do inside WILL reflect outside. The more you try to do outside, the more you are the writer trying to erase the printed text without realizing the printer will simply again print the same error.
To Recap
- Focus on feeling and visualizing an amazing relationship, don’t focus on a specific person.
- Understand resistance and focus on reducing resistance and allowing what you want to come.
- Recognize that you have to do the work inside and outside will change.
- Feel happy and joyous through the whole process.
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