I’ve heard it before. In fact, I’ve through it before:
…without [my stress, my doubt, my negative emotions that make me feel bad]…I’ll be lazy.
This is probably one of the biggest misconceptions. No one is lazy at their core. Laziness is the result of relentless pressure and tension and stress (due to the very things you think you need to stay motivated) that makes us not be able to relax, yet also incapable of action. That’s laziness.
In fact, there are two kinds of motivation:
Inspiration and Fear Motivation
Moshe Gersht calls it resistant wanting and non-resistant (or surrendered) wanting.
Inspiration is when you are connected to the now. You feel good and present, so you aren’t escaping anything. What pulls you forward is your inspired action. These are your passions and your purpose. They are the things you would do if you felt no lack and no doubt. Inspired motivation keeps you going because it’s just so much damn fun to be alive, create, and inspire others.
Fear motivation comes from running from who you don’t want to be, fighting to fill the lack you feel, trying to live up to expectations, and struggling to be who you think you’re supposed to be. Fear motivation keeps you going because you’re too afraid to slow down.
I would like you to understand that “fulfilling your purpose” in this world is not some grand, walk-on-water event. Rather, it is the accumulation of daily connected living, being tuned to source, and inspiring others to connect to source. You bring God into this world by connecting to source and then acting inspired.
Fear Motivation is:
- I’m not enough so I have to act in order to eventually be enough
- I need validation so I am going to act in order to eventually get validation
- I am afraid of bad things happening so I am going to build a fortress so they don’t happen
- I am jealous of them so I want the same things they have
- I want their approval so I will do what I think I need to do to earn it
- ….motivated by fear, by lack, by scarcity, by not-enough (time, money, love), negativity, by a victim mentality, by jealousy…
Given the law of attraction, do you see that if you “act” motivated by these things, you will just create more of them?
Fear Motivation makes us feel:
- I am a powerful, beautiful human-being and I am inspired to create
- I wake up excited for the day because I only have one life and what else am I going to do on this planet?
- I do because it feels good to do!
- I am filled with hope and know that since I have a positive mindset, everything I do kind of just works out for me…
- I can do anything and this is what I want to do…
- …is motivated by love, trust, passion, inspiration, hope, freedom, and a feeling that there is plenty of time.
When you do motivated by this, you draw more of it to you.
Inspiration makes us feel:
- Full of energy
Buuuuut…I really want money and my “passion” will not/cannot give me enough of it…
First of all, how do you know what will bring you money or not? Those who make money easily are those who are connected to inner being and act out of passion. They are filled with energy and vision and get the “downloads” when they need them. Also, our point here is not “only to make money.” Outside is a perfect reflection of inside. So a rich person may have “richness” in their inner experience, but they might also have stress, sickness, and fear. We want to have wealth with all the other joyous components. We can have wealth without the sacrifice as long as we do the inner work first.
Also, you may be thinking that painting is what you’re passionate about. If you embrace your passionate self (and feel passion now and allow that passion to guide you), you might discover passions you did not know you have. Do not assume you know the path of passion.
You have to break the habit of being yourself for anything to flow. That, by definition, requires going beyond what you “think you know.” You have to believe that it is possible so strongly that it becomes reality ahead of circumstances.
Are you understanding? Please do one simple activity right now:
Ask yourself, if I could do anything tomorrow, what would I do (with no limitations). If you tap into an authentic place, you should feel relief and ease. You can imagine yourself turning in the river and beginning to just flow.
- For me, the most powerful thought is simply the thought that I don’t need to do anything. The permission to be “lazy” and just wake up and do what I want comes with enormous relief. That means, at least for me, that that is a powerful thought that eases resistance. Generally, I don’t do that. But simply that permission allows my creative side to begin to flow.
I challenge you:
You have all of these desires in you. You want the perfect house, partner, car, job, insane wealth, freedom to travel, kids, etc. What if you had it? Right now. What would you feel? What would you do? You spend all this time thinking about this future but you don’t have any idea how you would be able to accept it if it came. The reason you cannot accept it is the only reason it has not yet come.