A secret I learned from a mentor of mine is how to break our life into defined time periods, define the terms of those periods, and then surrender entirely to the rules. True, as we become more developed, we’ll need to use this trick less, but for now, it’s very helpful, especially if we don’t have a felt experience of letting go.
So we’re going to practice letting go. And we’re going to watch how things begin to flow so much easier and so much better.
But Shouldn’t I Let Go Forever? Why For Just One Week?
Letting go brings up a lot of resistance in the form of fear and doubt. It’s why we all stay holding on to life so tightly in the first place, even though we’re causing ourselves and others endless mental, emotional, and physical harm. So when you let go, all those voices of fear and doubt that have been subdued by your habitual state will come up. If you tell them, “hey, this is how we’re living now,” they’ll probably eat you for breakfast. If you say, “it’s just until Tuesday, come back later,” they’ll be a lot easier to deal with.
So as an experiment for this new way of being, of thinking, I invite you to commit to two week. “One week” is your answer to doubt. No matter what your doubt says, you just say, “I’m only doing this for one weeks. For one week, you put your heart and soul into feeling and thinking differently. For one week, you will choose to feel good, no matter what. Don’t think. Don’t analyze. Don’t think too much about how it’s going or whether it’s working. This is a one week vacation from thinking and doing as we normally have. For one week, you’re letting your heart take over. Let’s see what can happen.
What is the goal of surrender?
Our goal is to surrender. This surrender means several things:
- Feel your “connected” state – you may or may not have felt it before. I want you to get a very good feeling for what it feels like to flow. We will use this feeling many times to snap ourselves back into flow in the future. If you have never felt it, you won’t know what you’re seeking. You will get very good at knowing all the beautiful, delicious subtleties of this state!
- See what happens when you let go and you choose to believe and trust that what you want is coming
- Gain Clarity – one of the natural results of this time will be clarity. You can set an intention before to direct this clarity.
How can you know whether you can let go and trust if you don’t try. At the end of one week, enough time will have passed and you’ll have enough felt experiences to know whether all of these things I’m teaching are true and life-changing…or not.
So what is the experiment?
- Stop and Don’t Do! – Anytime you feel a shift in your energy or a disconnect from you (angry, resentful, anxious, stressed, afraid, lazy, annoyed), STOP – that’s the rule. In your habitual state, when you disconnect, your mind says that you need to DO something to reconnect (”If I just finish this assignment…if I just get this promotion…if I just make it through today…then I’ll be ok"). Here we are practicing not doing. First we just catch ourselves in this pattern. And then we sit quietly for a minute, breath, and try one of these grounding methods I outline here:
- Gratitude practice immediately upon wakeup – visualize something that you feel grateful for, whether now, in the past, or the future. Do this until you feel gratitude. Hold onto to that feeling for at least 17 seconds.
- Meditate once a day for 10 minutes. I will give you a walkthrough of how to meditate and will provide the guided meditations.
- Make a journal and set aside a time each night to write and in the morning to review last night’s entry – There is no set time for this.
- Pick one thing you are manifesting during this period. Visualize it. Define it. Surrender to it.
The most important thing is that we do not think things that are not serving us. That means, we spend the next week staying open, not getting drawn into worries, and feeling good. We are going to trust that if we do this, better things will happen than if we’re trying to “figure out” life by worrying and reacting all of the time.
The simple point is: to stop acting when we’re not in alignment and see what happens. That is all.
There are additional things you can add to this challenge if you want. I don’t suggest you do them.
Why? Because the point of this challenge is not a detox/break. It’s a chance to break the circumstantial/responsive living that’s been our habit. Our goal is not to make an enormous life change to “feel better.” Our goal is to break the habit of being ourselves and understand how we can use proactive emotional states actively craft ourselves and realities. Our habitual thinking is not a result of habitual actions, thus changing our outward habits won’t help. Our habitual thinking
That’s why most diets don’t really help. They’re telling you what to eat but not helping you change the emotions making you eat poorly in the first place. So when the iron grip of will releases after the diet (which, it generally does) then that old habitual pattern comes right back.
We want to change the root. Of course you’ll feel better if you do the following things. If you already do them, continue. But we want to connect to that place of inner being and watch how it makes us feel good even without changing anything. Then we’ll watch as everything changes with very little need for an iron will. Because when you feel good, you work out, eat better, speak better, sleep better, and need less bandaids.
I don’t recommend you:
- Wake up at sunrise
- No weed or alcohol
- Yoga/workout routine everyday
- Vim Hoff breathing
- Ice/cold water submersion
- Dietary shifts like no coffee or sugar
- Any significant life-shifts what so ever – not in your relationships, not in your job, not in your living circumstances. Let whatever clarity come sit until after the two weeks. Then, make the change.
You can do this challenge on your own. I’d love to hear how it goes.
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